How to Improve Your Stamina in Bed – First, Learn to Relax
How can you improve your stamina in bed? In order to last longer in bed, you must learn how to relax. Because we’re all so stressed out, we actually need to practice training how to deeply relax. In other words, we need to trigger the “relaxation response” in our bodies.
The “Relaxation Response” is a term coined by Dr. Herbert Benson MD, of the Harvard Medical School. The Relaxation Response is also the name of a landmark book Benson wrote in 1975. This book changed the way people thought about stress. In particular, Benson showed how interrelated the mind and the body are. Benson pushed the mind-body health movement into the mainstream, where people started to recognize the real harm that chronic stress can have on your life, as well as the positive benefits that stress management can have on your well-being.
The Relaxation Response is all about getting yourself into a calm state where you’re engaging your “parasympathetic” state (which is essentially the opposite of the “fight or flight” response).
Because we are all so stressed out in our daily lives, we can’t just “snap out of it.” We have to take the right actions to bring ourselves into that relaxed state. It’s not necessarily hard, but it takes a little getting used to. Once you get good at eliciting the Relaxation Response, not only will your general health and happiness improve, but you’ll last longer in bed. And with practice, you can elicit your Relaxation Response and get into that meditative state almost on command.
Here’s a straight forward approach to triggering the Relaxation Response:
First, sit quietly and comfortably
Next, close your eyes then relax all your muscles from head to toe
Then breathe slowly and deeply. To help yourself focus and avoid distractions, you can count your breaths, or repeat a word with each exhale. Another thing you can do is visualize a meadow, a lake or some other relaxing image.
Do this for about 10 or 20 minutes. Do not use an alarm. When you finish, sit quietly for a few minutes and then get up slowly.
Practice this technique once or twice daily for best results.
You’ll probably notice a feeling of increased calm within hours or days, but you’ll experience a profound change in your stress levels – and your sexual endurance – if you make the “Relaxation Response” a part of your long-term routine. Why not start today?