How To Last Longer In Bed – The Twin Secrets Men Can Use For Increased Sexual Stamina Tonight
Is your lack of sexual stamina leaving you frustrated and angry? Are you unable to last long in bed and red-faced in embarrassment? Are you getting suspicious that your woman is seeking pleasure in someone else’s arms, because you’re falling short in bed?
If you find yourself answering yes to the questions above, don’t panic. You are not alone in this. As a matter of fact, surveys have revealed that almost half the male population experience this problem regularly.
However, that does not mean you have to live with this for the rest of your sexually active life. There are steps you can take to permanently improve your staying power and leave premature ejaculation in your past. I will reveal two quick changes I learned to make, that had an immediate effect on my ability to last longer.
1. Remove The Sense Of “Urgency” And Stop Rushing During Sex
Be in the moment and stop your head from “anticipating” and “visualizing” a few minutes into the future. As a man you are hardwired into being goal oriented, and your mind automatically scampers quickly towards the “goal” of ejaculation.
Because your mind focuses on ejaculation your body follows unquestioningly. Most men are guilty of being “penis-centric”, and hastily dive into thrusting early on during the session. Is it really a surprise that you can’t last long?
There is a direct relationship between the speed of your thrusts and how rapidly you ejaculate, since the quick thrusting leads your glans on your penis to become overly stimulated. The key is to cease your movements and penetration completely, once you sense your PONR (point of no return) creeping up on you.
You will have to practice for a while before you get this right and it becomes second nature to you. The trick is to increase your awareness, so you can recognize how your body tenses up during your point of no return. Once you feel your level of arousal dropping a few steps, you can resume penetration when you feel more in control.
And during the break from penetration keep the focus on her, with either oral sex or your hands, so it doesn’t end up feeling like a break to her, and feels like variety instead.
2. Freeing Your Muscles
Are you consciously aware how your body reacts and your bum, thighs and abs clench up when you feel like you are going to explode? You have to train your body to purposely relax those muscles not just at the point of return but throughout your session of sex.
Training your PC muscle, which stretches from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone), and forms the floor of the pelvic cavity, holds a big key to controlling your ejaculatory reflex. It is one of the single biggest physical factors which affect your stamina during intercourse.
Improving the strength of your PC muscle with the help of Kegel exercises will result in you being able to stop the flow of semen, not once but multiple times which not only allows you to last longer and please your woman, but helps you enjoy very intense orgasms yourself.
As men we are naturally wired to ejaculating quickly, so keeping all our muscles in a relaxed state will feel unnatural to you at first. But with practice, you can master control of your reflexes and muscles, and in time you won’t even be thinking about it.
Unfortunately a lot of men resort to premature ejaculation treatments that neither provide permanent solutions, simply don’t work, or maybe potentially harmful, like creams and sexual enhancement pills. Keep the above two points in mind the next time you engage in sexual activity and you should notice a significant improvement in your ability to last in bed.